Secret Things Women Want Men to Know About Having S3x with Them!

passion is exquisite. Enthusiasm is brilliant. sincerely worrying approximately who the girl is as someone is also exceptional. All of these items are turn-ons for us women. but there are some components to this entire hookup/s3x component that are pretty dang critical to our pleasure, and every now and then tough to speak approximately.

From the most honest of men pursuing a woman they want to decide to, to the men just seeking out an amicable hookup, here are a few things that often get unnoticed.

1. You could slow down and still be enthisiastic

I recognize. We’re all very excited, due to the fact intercourse could be very thrilling. And — in particular in porn and media — excitation mechanically translates to extended pace. but that’s no longer how s3x works nice for every body (cough, those bearing vaginas, cough). even as slam-up-in opposition to-the-wall, movie-sex is awesome warm on the large display, the reality is, biologically it’s not unusual for it to take a girl 10 to 15 minutes what it takes a man to do in 5. I’m talking about climaxing. So allow’s just take a 2nd, breathe, and enjoy the instant, shall we?

2. The Clitoris is not an afterthought

This one’s really important, guys. Because the fact is 75% of women will never get off from s3x alone. Ever. It’s sad but true. It’s the evolutionary burden we bear. (To those of you convinced you can change this, I will reiterate: Your dick is not a magic wand. Please stop making promises you can’t keep.) But there is good news! And it’s that clitoris stimulation is really good at getting women to climax.

Curious why your lady-friend wouldn’t bring this up during the times you’ve had s3x? It’s because women are often afraid the guy will get bored with just playing with her clit. And if we can tell you’re bored doing something just for us we’ll feel self-conscious and that will make it hard to orgasm anyway. So sometimes it’s a point not even worth mentioning in the sheets.

3 Sex with you is more than me masturbate alone

Now this one is more directed at the crowd who engages in casual hookups. (No judgment whatsoever if you do; friends-with-benefits can be great and we all go through our dating seasons.) But here is a pro-tip for the guys: Be involved in her orgasm.

In other words, don’t make her get herself off. Why do I bring this up? Because many guys find it really arousing to watch a woman play with herself while they do, ahem, other hookup things, and that’s great. And they’ll often tell her, “I love watching you play with yourself.” Or they’ll ignore her clit so it leaves her no choice. But if playing with herself is how she ends up getting off every time she hangs out with you, eventually she may just opt to stay home with Netflix. Because the reality is she can play with herself and climax alone anytime she wants — she came to you to have your hands on her.